Kim Kimdir?

  

LOSING THE JOY OF LIFE

Funda was finishing the final details of the dinner table. She carefully placed the napkins and the guest dinner set on the meticulously ironed tablecloth. The menu had been planned days in advance. Funda enjoyed stepping into the kitchen whenever she had the time to create something. She had planned the day’s meal ahead of time, just as she always did. She would meticulously plan every detail to ensure nothing was missing. A shopping list was taped to the fridge.

She was so focused on making everything perfect that she forgot to enjoy what she was doing. In fact, it often turned into a chore because, for Funda, whatever she did had to be done in the best way possible. This mindset was actually making her life harder. She couldn’t dedicate enough time to herself, but for Funda, that didn’t matter. She was fixated on the idea of everything being exactly the way she wanted.

She applied the same meticulousness to her job. She always delivered her work on time and without any mistakes. At home, she planned what needed to be done each day in advance. There was always a written to-do list ready. She had the same approach when it came to her child. She kept a close eye on school matters and never wanted them to fall behind in lessons.

Recently, however, she didn’t feel very good, even though she was fulfilling all her responsibilities. There was a sense of unease inside her. When she reflected on it, she realized she wasn’t actually enjoying the things she was doing. Her relationships at home weren’t great either. She had become increasingly cranky and constantly complaining. Something wasn’t right, but what?

She wanted everyone to be as organized and planned as she was. She expected everyone to be seated at the table when it was time for dinner, and for the children to get straight to their studies afterward.

What Funda didn’t realize was the simple fact that everyone is different. Some of us are meticulous about planning and organization, while others care much less. Funda’s perfectionism was bothering her family, too. Her expectation for them to conform to her way of doing things was causing tension.

Taking responsibility for one’s duties is, of course, important. However, sometimes things might fall short. Life doesn’t always go as planned, and unexpected situations arise. Some things are beyond our control.

Funda found herself on an inward journey, wondering about the root of her unease as she sipped her coffee.

Life is about movement. While continuing daily routines, we are also working toward our goals. Most of the time, we try to do what needs to be done in the best, most flawless way possible. But humans are imperfect beings, and we have the right to make mistakes. Trying too hard to avoid mistakes can take away the joy from what we’re doing.

Perfectionism wears us out in both our tasks and our relationships. Yet life is a long journey, and it’s meant to be enjoyed. When we focus on the result rather than the journey itself, we miss out on life’s joys.

The desire for perfection often stops us from even starting. Some of us say:
“If I’m going to do it, it has to be perfect. Nothing should be missing.”

But this perfectionist mindset increases the number of things we give up on in life. After all, isn’t it natural to make mistakes when starting something new?

Isn’t this why many of us never start exercising? We say, “I need to join a good gym first. Besides, I need new workout clothes.”
But a simple walk in the fresh air could be the first step. If we continue consistently, exercise can become a natural part of our lives.

The same goes for diets that always seem to start “next Monday.” We think, “I can’t start without a dietitian.”
But even reducing portion sizes slightly can be a great start.

We wait for the perfect time to study, which often results in not starting at all. However, waking up just ten minutes earlier can be a small but impactful step.

The key is starting with what we can do and maintaining consistency. When we aim for perfection, we often find ourselves doing nothing. Even the smallest steps get delayed.

But those small steps are what lead to big achievements. Continuing with steady effort isn’t about doing the best; it’s about doing good enough. When we start thinking this way, our motivation grows. We not only enjoy the outcome but also the process itself. Enjoying the process means enjoying life.

As Funda thought more about these things, she noticed her mind starting to relax. She had always searched for the source of her unease in the outside world. Now she realized it had been right in front of her all along—like looking for something only to find it was right under her nose.

The Experiential Design Teaching says: “A person’s greatest friend and enemy has always been the same—the one in the mirror.” For the person in the mirror to enjoy life, all it takes is a small step. That step may bring challenges or mistakes, but perfection isn’t required. Taking that step can free us from our burdens and help us enjoy the journey.

So, are you ready to take that step?

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