SAKIN!

 

BEING A FAMILY

Ece was gathering the last of her belongings in the kitchen. Her eyes suddenly caught the view through the kitchen window. The sea, with its endless beauty, was there. It seemed as if it was meant to calm her for a moment. She would miss waking up to this view in the mornings. Of course, there were other memories she would miss as well.

Her cousin Lale and her mother had also come to help. Her mother was complaining from one side, making things even more difficult. “People just don’t understand sometimes,” Ece said quietly. She was struggling not to cry. Her cousin Lale couldn’t say anything. She just touched her shoulder, wanting to let her know she was there.

“I don’t know, Lale. Maybe he and I were never really a family. I guess I need to think through all of this. I should reflect on the lessons I can learn from all of this,” Ece said. They had decided to end her years-long marriage.

No one wants to be unhappy in life. On the journey of life, people don't aim to make choices that will upset them. When asked what a person wants in life, most answers are the same: to be happy and successful, to build peaceful relationships... But sometimes, desire comes first. They may struggle to choose what is right for them.

However, life always sends signs beforehand. These signs are like road signs guiding a person before making a decision. If they pay attention to those signs, they will act cautiously and experience less harm. But when desires are strong, they might not see those signs, or they may not want to see them. They may even see those who oppose their desires as enemies.

A person can only learn if they take lessons from their experiences. Otherwise, their experiences can become a burden on their shoulders. Naturally, many choices in everyday life are made without giving them much consideration. For example, when someone tries a different route on their way home from work, they might get stuck in traffic. They’ll arrive at their destination later than expected and might be a bit tired, but the discomfort passes quickly. However, some choices have consequences that are much harder to undo and with greater losses. The exhaustion might not go away so quickly. Weeks, months, or even years might pass before it fades. When looking back, it might feel like an entire lifetime.

However, life is in favor of the individual. It also offers the chance to learn from the lives of others. In fact, one doesn’t need to experience everything. Similar to Ece's belief that they were never truly a family… There must be people around her who have succeeded in becoming a genuine family. By looking through that lens, she can reflect on their actions and incorporate those lessons into her life.

So, how can a person truly become a family?

Is sharing resources alone enough to be a family? Shouldn’t the members of a family not only share the resources but also the responsibilities?

Contributing mutual effort, meeting each other’s needs, and recognizing responsibilities are important. When one of the partners faces difficulties, even if they aren’t as upset as the other, it’s the family bond that makes them understand the pain and provide support.

Being a family means being a team. On this shared journey, individuals must set aside selfishness and work toward common goals. In a train journey, if the train goes off track, it impacts all the passengers. Being a family is much like that. The people within the team must come together and stick closely in both good and bad times. They should not just look after each other; they must walk side by side toward the same goal.

With the hope that we can come together and form a family filled with joy, peace, and mutual benefit…

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 Yahya Hamurcu