Kim Kimdir?

 

OLDIES BUT GOLDIES…

 

It was a sunny day after a rainy week. Nermin wanted to take a coffee break with the rightful proud of finishing the household chores. Indeed, how precious it was when something is deserved, even a cup of coffee. 

Zeynep, her upstairs neighbor, came into her mind. The other day she had brought a warm cake she had made. She wanted to call and invite her, to have a chat. They had been neighbors for many years. They could ask each other for help when they needed it without hesitation. They had raised their children together and witnessed each other's happiness. She was a nice chatty friend for Nermin. She called her and the conversation deepened and deepened. The conversation went back to the old days. To the days when the longing for the old neighborhood and relationships was felt... To those times when there were fewer opportunities but more satisfaction. Relationships where people cared about each other's needs... 

Nowadays, the opportunities have improved but the sincerity in relationships seems to have lessened. Neighborhood used to be different in the past. Many people used to think about their neighbors and their surroundings as much as they thought about their own home and family. People were aware of each other's good and bad days. Happinesses were shared and sorrows were lessened when we were together. Even thinking about those times makes one's heart warm, doesn't it?

So what has changed in our lives?

We thought that we would be happy as we increased our opportunities, whereas happiness was about what we hoped for in life and what we got in return. And the more we got, the more we wanted, and the more we tried to get what we wanted, the more selfish we became, because everyone's desire was more important than the other's. 

 

The Experiential Design Teaching says: “Selfishness does not build bonds.” 

 

As we tried to live according to our desires, we became lonely. We were alone in the crowds. We tried to build a world on our own. We were crowded from the outside, but we were actually alone because we couldn't communicate properly.

• We had things we wanted to say, but sometimes we couldn't bear to listen.
• We didn't want to understand the other person because of what we wanted.
• We liked to be remembered, but we could not show the same sensitivity.
• We looked for someone in our difficult times, but we didn't think of being the person to look for 

However, as man thinks only of himself and becomes individualized, he becomes unhappy. However, as people have their own needs, they also fulfill the needs of others. And each person's need is actually hidden in someone else. Therefore, it is actually in his/her favor to communicate. Strengthening ties with other people strengthens the bond with oneself. That is why the old days are remembered with longing. 

How far can we go by pining for the past? We need to take steps to be better than we were yesterday. It is up to us to strengthen our relationships. The real transformation begins when we move away from selfishness and start providing benefits. Being a provider is as good for us as it is for the other person. Without realizing it, other matters are taken care of when we least expect it. 

 

Because in this life, the one who sees another's need is fulfilled.

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Experiential Design Teaching is the knowledge of reality that enables people to design their future through past experiences. It offers individuals strategies they need in order to solve their problems and achieve their goals.

 

"Who is Who", "Relationship Mastery", "Psychology of Success" programs provide individuals the methods to being happy and successful.

 

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"Out of billions of people, what importance can "one" person have?

 

To know the answer ask that "one" person!"

 

Yahya Hamurcu